School holidays can bring logistical challenges and emotional stresses for co-parenting families. Ensuring a successful school break in these circumstances requires clear communication, flexibility and a shared commitment to putting...
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Successfully coparenting during the school holidays
School holidays can bring logistical challenges and emotional stresses for co-parenting families. Ensuring a successful school break in these circumstances requires clear communication, flexibility and a shared commitment to putting your child’s needs first. Here are some practical things every co-parent can think about during the holidays:
- Planning ahead
Start discussions early about how the school holiday schedule will look. If there is a court order in place check the system in place for allocating time well ahead of time. Double check the school term dates and ensure you have a shared calendar that you are both working from. Think about your child’s wishes, family traditions and any travel plans and ensure these are adequately reflected in the calendar.
- Communicate openly
Honest, respectful communication is key. If plans change, let the other parent know as soon as possible and suggest an alternative where possible. Avoid making assumptions and always check in before confirming arrangements. If something is unclear, ask questions to ensure you are on the same page.
- Be flexible and fair
School holidays do not always fall evenly and unexpected opportunities or emergencies may arise. Try and be accommodating to each other’s needs where possible. Be prepared to negotiate or mediate if arrangements do not go as planned.
- Prioritise your child’s experience
Ultimately you will both be focused on creating positive memories for and with your child. Encourage them to spend quality time with both parents and avoid putting them in the middle of any disagreements. As your child grows up they will have their own opinions about how they want to spend their school holidays – especially teens and tweens! If appropriate, try involving them in the planning.
- Maintain consistent rules and routines
Try and agree on your approach to bedtimes, screentime and expectations around behaviour even in the holidays. Having these consistent boundaries at both homes can help your child feel secure.
- Ask for help and support
If communication breaks down or conflicts arise, consider mediation or the involvement of a parenting coach. We have lots of helpful content on The Happy Co-Parent website.
Co-parenting isn’t always easy but the above tips will hopefully help you and your child enjoy the break from school and create lots of special memories.
If you need further help or advice our team of solicitors at Burgess Mee are here to help you.